Beauty is in the eye of the Beholder

“I think women are sexy when they got some clothes on. And if later they take them off then you’ve triumphed. Somebody once said it’s what you dont see you’re interested in, and this is true.” 
― Groucho Marx

So…I recently read an article about what men look for in women. They said:

Men like women with freckles. check

Men like women who don’t wear a lot of make-up. check

Men like women who are nerdy. check

Men like women who wear glasses. check.

There were more but I can’t remember them now.

But, that’s 4 out of 4! So, my question is….where are all these men??!!

I haven’t seen anyone knocking down any doors to find me!

I’m not talking about “cat calls” or horn honking or pick up lines kind of attraction. I’m talking about the kind that is saying, “I like you. I want to get to know you better” I want to hear something like this:

“Tonight was… well, it was perfect for me too. You’ve turned my world upside down. I’ve fallen in love with you, chica, and it scares the f—–‘ s— outta me. I’ve been shakin’ all night, because I knew it.I’ve tried to deny it, to make you think I wanted you as a fake girlfriend, but that was a lie.” 
― Simone Elkeles, Rules of Attraction

and where is this guy?:

“That’s always seemed so ridiculous to me, that people want to be around someone because they’re pretty. It’s like picking your breakfeast cereals based on color instead of taste.” 
― John Green, Paper Towns

And then, there is the amazing Nicholas sparks, who always knows just  exactly what to say and when:

“He liked her; it was as simple as that.” 
― Nicholas Sparks, The Last Song

And…last but not least, we can always blame this:

“The problem with human attraction is not knowing if it will be returned.” 
― Becca Fitzpatrick, Hush, Hush

Yes….that must be it!

Letter to my Daughter

Then

 

What I wanted most for my daughter was that she be able to soar confidently in her own sky, whatever that may be.
— Helen Claes

Now 

“It happens to everyone as they grow up. You find out who you are and what you want, and then you realize that people you’ve known forever don’t see things the way you do. So you keep the wonderful memories, but find yourself moving on.” 
― Nicholas Sparks

First of all, you have not disappointed me. Honestly, baby girl, I can’t think of what you could do that would disappoint me. You know that I want you to be happy. We both know that ” happy” and how we get there can be very different to different people. You and I figured out a long time ago that our brains are not  wired the same way. We have learned to respect, if not always agree with our differences. But….you NEVER disappoint me! Don’t you know that you are my standard of what an ideal woman should be? (I know…I just called you a woman!) Don’t you know how much I admire you? If you don’t, then I have failed as a mother.  You are beautiful, intelligent, funny….You are strong, with just the right amount of vulnerability. You stand up for yourself, for what’s right and for those who can’t stand up for themselves. Life has not always been easy for you between things going on at home and trying so hard to do the right thing, even when you stood alone. How my heart broke for you during those times but how very, very proud of you I was and in awe because you didn’t compromise your morals and principles just to be part of the crowd.YOU taught ME so much. You taught me not to cave in as much as I had before. You taught me to have more self respect. You taught me that if a value IS indeed a VALUE, we need to treat it as such. Thank you! This is only one of many lessons you have taught me in the past 19 years. You have been my heart, my inspiration. You have been my reason to get up in the morning. But you have never, ever been a disappointment.

“You can spend minutes, hours, days, weeks, or even months over-analyzing a situation; trying to put the pieces together, justifying what could’ve, would’ve happened… or you can just leave the pieces on the floor and move the fuck on.” 
― Tupac Shakur

Remember…..

“I hope you dance”…..http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RV-Z1YwaOiw&ob=av2e